How to unlock disabled iPhone due to wrong passcode

The steps given in this link will help you reset the passcode -> If you forgot the passcode for your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, or your ...

No, it is actually asking for the OLD passcode, before it was changed. It IS NOT the iCloud password.

It literally says, "Enter Old Passcode. Passwords, home and other data are protected by the passcode previously used to unlock this iPhone." I don't know the OLD passcode, which is why the phone was locked and reset to begin with.

I forgot my passcode and my phone was locked. I followed these directions to reset it and gain access again, and created a new passcode, but to restore from the iCloud, it wants the OLD passcode; the one I forgot; the one that made me reset the phone to begin with. I feel held hostage. I have come to grips with losing everything, but now I just want the message asking me for the OLD forgotten passcode every time I try to set up something on this phone. It's an iPhone XR.

No, it is not wanting the passcode for your iPhone, it is wanting the password you used to encrypt your backup. They are two different things.